Good Listener

Good Listener.

**Actually, I sort of don’t get why I have to write the title twice. oh well..

I want to talk about a good listener. First of, as if you don’t know, Listening is an essential part of communication, and it is different from hearing. Now, what exactly, is a good listener means?
A good listener is someone who can listen to a person without interrupting, and truly hear what they are saying to them. That doesn't mean that they do not offer their own insight or anything, but it means that they tend to listen more than talk.

I understand that to be someone’s good friend, you have to be a good listener. Well, there have been said that best friends are the one who are with you through joy and pain, right? So I assume, being a good listener helps you to be there with your friend through pain.

Problem is, nobody likes others problems to be shoved to their faces. Oo before you say “that’s just selfish, a good friend would never feel burdened by listening to their friends’ problem.” Well welcome to the world immature little babies. Face it, in this technology-advanced world, everything is “about me”, you know? Everybody is self-centered. No matter how saint-ish they look, or act, deep down, they’re still selfish. Even if they said they would take a bullet for you, do anything for you yadda yadda. There’s gotta be something they think about themselves before you. its just how this world operate, its normal.

Now, there have been numerous websites teaching how to become a good listener. Do you really think it’s that easy? By reading it t through, you’ll be a great listener overnight? Hell no. However, as strong as I objected this whole websites steps, don’t get me wrong, I’m just saying, it’s easier to read than to put it into practice, we shall discuss the it.

First step is to Place you in the other person's shoes. Meaning to say, try to put yourself into the same situations your partners going through. Well, as I said above, everything in this world now is “about me”. Say if, you put yourself in the other’s shoe, are you sure that you won’t interrupt their “moments” by saying, “if I were you, I would do this, do that instead of doing this, doing that.”? They would definitely ask you consequences of why you’re doing, why did you choose to do that etc. Then, the whole conversation is about you.. See what I mean?

Another step is to Stop talking/be silent. Meaning to say, try to listen very carefully of what they want to talk about. I’m not sure about this. Why? Because if you don’t involve in something, big chances that you’re going to fall asleep. Seriously!

Another one is to follow and encourage the speaker with body language. Meaning to say, try to nod sometimes between the conversations. Hey, if were the speaker, I would really slap you if you go for silent but nodding. It clearly shows that you’re not interested to hear my story! You just nod and nod, but you’re silent! And how could I know if you really listen to me? Besides, nodding while I’m practically crying on your shoulder is like, mocking me. Damn it, don’t nod! Not only it so cliché, it’s damn annoying too!

Say if you’re not much of a listener, but your partner’s really down, and you want to do something about it. Would you go for cheering them up instead of seeing them miserable? Say if you go for cheering them up, wouldn’t that just perfectly depicts how UNinterested are you in hearing their problems if they’re about to open up? And what makes you think they’re up to your jokes, rather than think about the solutions for their problems?

So if someone is not a good listener, can you say that they are not good friends? Isn’t it too selfish to judge? Are you being a good friend by judging and forcing someone to listen to you? see, then again, the world is really “all about me”. What the hell..

Now, wrapping up. I’m 18 years old girl, who write randomly. I am not an expert in anything. So, sorry to tell you that I honestly don’t know what are the conclusion. HAHAHA!! I’m so funny, I knowwwwww right!! =_=''''

Anyway, its just my opinion. I may right and I may as well be wrong, but I hope somebody could come up and tell me my view is shallow. With of course, better arguments. I don't want someone who just emerges from nowhere and say i'm shallow without pointing their reasons. That's just.. =_=''

I have been breathing for 18 years already and one thing I know for sure is that, mothers are always good listeners. Sorry for wasting your time.