What are examples of a narcissist's behavior in a relationship?
In the beginning, he is so considerate of you, and seems to understand you like no one else. He is very self assured, and this is what pulls you in. It makes him insanely attractive. He doesn't get very upset for you when you are upset. He is shallow, you feel that there is something missing in your emotional bond. You feel that you can't crack his shell.
Another thing that I notice is that he doesn't talk about childhood experiences. He does however tell of all of the mean people that did him wrong. He is eternally the victim. No matter how much pain you have experienced, his is always greater. When you fight about anything, he will accuse you of the very thing that he is guilty of. When he has done something really wrong to you, when you find him out, instead of soothing you, he will just get madder at you. Cannot see the actual problem in an argument but only hears the words you say and uses them against you. Very, very hypocritical. He may seem to ignore you for awhile, that is because he has found narcissistic supply somewhere else. This could be a woman, a co-worker, a friend, anything to feed his ego. When that runs out, he will be back to you for more supply.
These people are like aliens. They have trouble keeping jobs, because they can't get along with people that have a mind of their own. They have no friendships that have lasted. They are irresponsible with bills. They will argue about the smallest thing forever. They lie about everything from what their dad does for a living to denying their cheating. He thinks that every woman wants him, when in fact most are rolling their eyes at his ridiculous behavior. He works on himself not the relationship. examples of this are going to a gym, taking extracurricular classes. playing an instrument. He will cry about things, but your tears mean nothing. They annoy him.
If you are involved with one if these monsters, it is said that they cannot change. I know that anything is possible with God, but I spent 14 years of my life dealing with this kind of relationship, and I am just now realizing how nice it would be to be with someone that cared about my feelings and helped in the relationship. I have finally lost the attraction to my N. I read every thing I could about narcissism, and it all clicked. When you get the facts, it takes the mystery and attraction away, and you can smile again.
Source: Answer.com.
Sounds familiar, no? :)
